‘You’ve lived a wasted life if you die without orgasm’ – Pastor’s wife

The wife of a popular Nigerian pastor has advised married Christian women to prioritise sexual pleasure, stating that dying without experiencing an orgasm means living a wasted life.

During a recent church programme tagged “Marriage That Works”, the wife of Pastor Juwon Owolabi of Lightlife Church International preached to couples about the importance of intimacy in marriage.

She urged women, in a video that has since gone viral on social media, to stop viewing sex as a duty for childbearing and to start seeing it as something they have a right to enjoy.

She shared her personal experience, revealing that she married as a virgin and initially knew nothing about sex beyond basic biology. However, she later realized that sexual intimacy is something she needed to actively study and understand to build a healthy marriage.

“I knew that okay, I need to understand because this is a body of knowledge, this is like a university”, she said.

She also added that God created sex, and as long as couples are married, He is not against them trying different styles to improve their intimacy.

Her husband, Pastor Juwon Owolabi, also joined the conversation to support her points, stating that the sex life of couples should not fade away as they get older. He used the biblical example of Abraham marrying Keturah in his old age, stressing that if partners take good care of themselves, intimacy should actually get better with age.

The most talked-about moment from the seminar came when the pastor’s wife emphasized on the right of women to sexual satisfaction. She said;

“If you die without experiencing orgasm, you’ve lived a wasted life. God created sex, God instituted sex, and as a woman, you have the right to enjoy orgasm.”

While some social media users praised her for breaking the silence on a topic often considered taboo in Nigerian churches, others felt her choice of words, was too extreme.